Do Not Mention The Weather !

How many times do we start a conversation with someone and it starts with the weather - this really is a common thing to do isn't it ?
You may have even have done that this very morning when meeting your first person.
Maybe try this the next time - give a compliment to the person accompanied with a smile, even if the weather is terrible which it is quite a lot here in the UK, see what response you get.
Compliments may include - That is a great coat your wearing, your hair looks really good this morning, I am sure you can think of some yourself.
This all relates to a previous post on being different and not fitting in with the normality of everyone else.
So stand out today and do not mention the weather !
Have a great day - and you all look wonderful x

Happy Regards
Dr Rob - The Persuasionist.

The Power of YES.

How many times are you asked to go to an engagement, visit relatives or do something different which is not your usual thing ?
How many times do you use these words " Maybe " & " Try " Do you know the word maybe and try just means NO but in a nicer way !
Think how many times you have been asked to do something and you have said either of those words and not gone, quite a few times I would expect.
There is a great book written by Danny Wallace called " Yes Man " where he spent months saying Yes where he would normally say no.
I am not saying you have to duplicate or copy this exactly, but try saying Yes more and see how many new experiences you have.
I can guarantee you it will be a challenge but one that is more worthwhile than just saying the usual No and doing what you do - day in / day out.

New Experiences bring new discoveries - Say Yes more this week and post your comments on what new things you learn.
Have a wonderful week.
Warmest Regards

Dr Rob - The Persuasionist.

Are you a Metrosexual Man ?

Hello Everyone,

This is a phrase I only heard recently and had to look up what the definition was.
When the term metrosexual was first used it was used to describe a heterosexual man who acted or behaved like he was homosexual or bisexual.
This was a widespread way to describe a man, and it was not used very often. However, today it is used much more often with a more refined meaning.
Today it is not just a word used to describe a man, it is more than that. Metrosexual is now a lifestyle that is celebrated by many men and women alike.
The word is also not used to simply describe a man that behaves homosexual or bisexual.
A metrosexual man is simply a man who embraces and accepts his feminine side and takes care in his appearance.
here is actually a difference. A man who cares about his appearance is just that. But a man who goes over the top about his appearance, his clothing, and his material possessions is definitely a metrosexual.
It even goes into the man’s lifestyle as far as fitness, eating well and other lifestyle choices that might be involved.
A lot of metrosexuals will spend more money on quality clothing for their wardrobe, getting their hair cut and colored on a regular basis, getting manicures and pedicures on a regular basis, and possibly even some light tanning at the local tanning salon.
The term metrosexual still needs to be used with care, as some men do not like to be labeled with that word.
Sure, a man might get manicures, or pedicures, or regular haircuts, or spend more time in the mirror than usual, or even have a better wardrobe than their girlfriends.
Todays Metrosexual Men ~ Are You A Metrosexual?

If you are wondering if you might be a metrosexual there is a simple way of finding out for sure. Take a look around you and your home.

Do you spend a lot of time finding the best clothing and accessories for your wardrobe?

Are your nails always cleanly manicured and taken care of?

Do you always have and use the best skin care and hair care products?

Do you make sure that you only dine at the finest restaurants and shop at the best stores?

Do you have a hairstylist that knows you by name, or even the whole salon knows you be name?

If all or most of the above questions had you nodding yes you just may be a true metrosexual.
That is it for today - Have a great one !
Warmest Regards
Dr Rob - The Persuasionist.

Positive Complements are Really Important !

How many times do you hear somebody give you a positive comment, even very trivial ? Not many times I would guess, everyone loves to receive good comments about themselves as if they are down or having a bad day even something very small, that even you would not think worthwhile maybe worth so much to somebody else.

Here is a video to prove what I mean........ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cbk980jV7Ao

I have posted this to my wall before but it so powerfully explains my post today.
Have a wonderful day everyone and remember you are all beautiful people !

Warmest Regards
Dr Rob - The Persuasionist.

5 Ways to improve your Eye Contact.

5 Ways to improve your eye contact skills

1. Talking to a group – When talking to a group of people it is great to have direct contact with your listeners. Don’t make the mistake of maintaining eye contact with just one person as this will stop the other members of the group from listening. To get past this, focus on a different member of the group with every new sentence. This way you are talking to all of the group and keeping them all interested.
2. Talking to an individual – It is great to maintain eye contact when talking to a person however it can become a bit creepy and uncomfortable if you stare intensely at them. To combat this, break eye contact every 5 seconds or so. When breaking the eye contact don’t look down as this might indicate the ending of your part of the conversation. Instead, look up or to the side as if your are remembering something. Try it just now: don’t move your head, and think about the first time you started school. You will notice your eyes might move up or to the side as you try to remember this. So when your listener sees this they will think you are trying to remember something and keep on listening to you.
3. Listening to someone – When you are listening to someone it can be off putting for the talker if you stare at them too hard. The technique I use when I am counseling someone is to use what I call ‘The triangle’. This is when I look at one eye for about 5 seconds, look at the other eye for 5 seconds and then look at the mouth for 5 seconds and keep on rotating in this way. This technique coupled with other listening skills such as nodding, occasional agreement words such as ‘yes’, ‘Uh –huh’ ‘mm’ etc is a great way to keep the talker talking and to show them you are interested in what they are saying.
4. Attracting someone – When you are trying to attract someone and show them you are interested you can talk and listen with your eyes. When a person you like is speaking use the whole face as your focal point. Look at their eyes, listen to what they are saying, smile in the appropriate places, raise your eyebrows in the appropriate places. If you feel you are staring at them move to their other features such as their lips, their cheeks, their nose and then back to their eyes. Smiling when listening to someone is a great way to show you are interested in them, obviously don’t smile when they have just told you their pet died last night. You have to listen with your ears as well as listening with your eyes (yes I did mean listening with your eyes, you listen to someone’s body language with your eyes).
5. Loving someone – My partner and I often share a prolonged gaze into each others eyes and it is a very special thing to just stare without talking. My partners pupils will dilate and she can my pupils dilating. It creates a strong bond between us. To make your pupils dilate even more you can try this: as you are staring at your partner imagine yourself going inside their body and your two souls making love. You are trying to touch their very soul. This will release adrenalin and make your pupils dilate even more.

Have a great day,
Regards
Dr Rob - The Persuasionist.

Being Confident for the Weekend !

A later post today ! Being persuasive is all about confidence, whether it is confidence in ones self or confidence of being in certain situations.
Some can have an outwardly seen confidence and are a nervous wreck inside.

I have heard so many people say " I am afraid of public speaking " - consider this you are in town talking with a couple of friends - is this public speaking? Of course it is - it is only your perception that is scaring you if you are amongst strangers or in front of a large amount of people.

So the advice to follow is for those of you who are single and maybe going out over the weekend, be individual, find out the likes and opinions of those with whom you talk with and always show an interest - but nothing too suggestive
lol

Wishing you all a wonderful weekend.

Regards
Dr Rob - The Persuasionist.

The Science of Attraction.

Today I am going to share a video series introduced by Derren Brown and presented by Kat Akingbade and Charlie McDonnell. It is called the Science of Attraction.

Here is the Link.... http://www.scienceofattraction.co.uk/

It looks at attraction from a scientific point of view, over the next few weeks we will discuss attraction and how you can improve your skills when meeting new people.
Have a fantastic day everyone.
Regards

Dr Rob - The Persuasionist.

An Old Video About Persuasion,

Good Afternoon,
Today I would thought I would put a link to a video I did last year about persuasion, it isn't brilliant in technical terms but I am sure you can learn something from it.

Here is the link.....

http://www.ustream.tv/recorded/4933037


Further Video and Recordings can be found here...

http://www.ustream.tv/channel/drbert

I really hope you learn a little from them, again I must apologise for the quality as it was my first attempt.

Cheers for now
Dr Rob - The Persuasionist.

Your Never Fully Dressed Without A Smile !

This is so true when you think about it, spend some time looking at everyone you see in the street and count how many people are smiling or are in a happy mood. It does not have to be in the street, it could be whilst you are driving. I am sure you will discover that very few people smile, something else worth thinking about and looking at is this - " What expression are these people showing if it is not happiness ? "

I personally have a problem with mobile phones and here is the reason - we have become attached to our phones and treat them as our closest friend, indeed they do connect us with our friends if they are used to connect to the internet for social networking or used to text people but surely this is not the same as meeting face to face and being able to read their expressions and body language.

Really something to think about isn't it.

Do me a favour and try smiling more - I am sure you will feel better in yourself and may also improve the day of others you meet or pass in the street.

Ciao for now

Dr Rob - The Persuasionist.

Be an Individual !

Today's Discussion is on " Being Individual " people think they are individual however we tend not to be as individual as we think, these examples will explain what I mean.
There are those who want to have what their friends have and a good example of this is the Apple Iphone, whilst it may not be the best at what it does people want it. Is it good advertising - I doubt it as the latest version has had its faults but people still buy it - Why ? I think the answer to this is acceptance, we all seem to want to conform with what we see in others.
If you take the school concept we are all taught to be employees and not taught to be employers - those who we naughty and were often bunking off school are those who end up breaking away from the normality and do end up being the ones who own businesses.

We also see the sheep mode - being like others - when we are out driving they are the ones who follow into what could be a dangerous situation - doing just what the driver ahead did and not thinking for themselves.

The lesson to learn from this is - To think for yourself, and try and be an individual and I will leave you with this saying " If x was to jump of a cliff would you follow " I hope you will answer No in future.
Have a great day.

Dr Rob - The Persuasionist.

LIfe Should be like a Top Training Shoe !

Your life should be like the NIKE moto - " Just Do It " far too many people especially here in the UK are not willing to take risks, they play it safe and stay in the status que (Normality) because they think it feels safer, I agree it maybe safer but experience comes from taking risks. When your at school you see a nice looking girl who you would like to ask out but do you - NO, why ?
because you are worried she or indeed he if we deal with this from both sides of the coin - its fear of them saying no - try this >> Just do it and ASK - if they say No then you will know the answer - but it could be a yes !
It is far better to ask and get a No than to not ask at all - isnt it ?

More to come tomorrow !
Have a wonderful Day - if its raining - think what the rain does to the spring flowers in the ground - rain is good if you think of it as nutrients for our wonderful countryside.
Dr Rob - The Persuasionist.